Through a Girls’ Adventure Lens

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1. Do You Share the Same Compass?

Good Fit:
Everyone wants to finish stories and improve craft.

Simple example:

• They talk about plot holes, character growth, and revisions.
• Meetings end with clear next steps.

Bad Fit:
No shared goal — just wandering conversations.

Simple example:

• Meetings drift into life updates only.
• No one brings pages. No one finishes drafts.

Building your stories:
Your stories don’t need to be the same. Your energies need to be harmonious and in the same direction.

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2. Is the Feedback Honest and Kind?

Good Fit:
Feedback helps you see your story more clearly.

Simple example:

• “This scene is strong, but I got confused here — maybe raise the stakes?”

Bad Fit:
Feedback is either sugar-coated or harsh.

Simple example:

• “It’s perfect, don’t change anything!”
• Or: “This doesn’t work,” with no explanation.

In the story:
A true companion warns you about the storm — without pushing you off the cliff. Can you trust them with your thoughts and creative process?

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3. Is Your Voice Respected?

Good Fit:
They help you strengthen your story, not rewrite it.

Simple example:

• They ask questions instead of giving commands.
• They respect genre, tone, and style differences.

Bad Fit:
They want your story to sound like theirs.

Simple example:

• “I don’t read this genre, but you should change it anyway.”
• “That’s not how I would write it.”

In the story:
Every girl brings her own skill. No one is asked to erase herself. Do you have to create a mono tone of similarity to be respected?

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4. Is There Real Movement?

Good Fit:
People show up with pages and make progress.

Simple example:

• Drafts evolve. Revisions happen. Deadlines matter.

Bad Fit:
Everyone is stuck in “almost.”

Simple example:

• Same chapters shared for months.
• Constant talking about writing, very little writing.

In the story:
This group walks — even when the trail gets steep. Do the people move forward in their stories?

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5. Is the Environment Supportive, Not Fragile?

Good Fit:
Success is celebrated.

Simple example:

• Someone finishes a draft and everyone cheers.
• Publishing wins are shared openly.

Bad Fit:
Comparison and quiet resentment creep in.

Simple example:

• Awkward silence after good news.
• Backhanded compliments.

In the story:
Your team lifts you higher — they don’t pull you back down. This one, you know if they do or don’t pretty quickly.

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6. Does It Match Your Season?

Good Fit:
The group aligns with where you are right now.

Simple example:

• Drafting group when you’re drafting.
• Revision group when you’re revising.

Bad Fit:
You feel rushed or stuck.

Simple example:

• You want accountability, they want casual chats.
• You want slow growth, they want fast output.

In the story:
Some journeys are meant for sunrise. Others for nightfall.

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7. How Do You Feel When You Leave?

Good Fit:
You want to write immediately.

Simple example:

• Ideas buzzing. Notebook open. Fingers moving.

Bad Fit:
You feel smaller than when you arrived.

Simple example:

• Doubting your story. Questioning your voice.

In the story:
The right campfire warms you.
The wrong one burns out your spark.

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🗺️ Final Adventure Rule

Not every group is meant to be your forever crew.

Some are training grounds.
Some are rest stops.
Some are lessons.

The right writing group doesn’t just help you write better —
it helps you keep going.

And every great girls’ adventure story knows this truth:

Who you travel with matters. 🌟